Shine Komotso Shine! Mmmm Good Job!
23 September 2009
Last weekend here in GaMaja we celebrated the wedding of my friend Tiny! Tiny and Moses were married at Tiny’s family home last Saturday in a wonderful ceremony that was oh so very South African!
To begin, it is custom here for the groom to pay Lebola, or bride price. Which is traditionally cattle, blankets, etc. and in recent years often includes some amount of money; the families of the bride and groom arrange this. By South African tribal tradition once lebola has been paid the couple is officially married. But today many couples also have a Christian ceremony as well.
Tiny’s house had been transformed for the wedding, and it looked a little like a circus had come to town. Three large tents had been erected. One for the wedding ceremony, one for cooking and one for the men to drink in. There were about 100 hundred guests dressed in both beautiful western clothing and amazing traditional dress, all in bright colors. (How the women walk in high heels around here is completely beyond me.) There was also a very large sound system set up; complete with microphone, speakers, keyboard, and stereo.
The ceremony began (only about an hour late) with the groom and his 10 or so groomsmen dressed in crisp white suits dancing through the streets, first to a neighbors house then to the bride’s home, where they collected the 10 bridesmaids. The dancing train was lead by a very charismatic and enthusiastic minister, who is one of the most outrageous dancers I have ever seen! The dancing they do is almost like line dancing. It is to high energy house music and the wedding party forms a line that dances thru the yard, out into the street and back again. A train of other guests, dancing as well, often joins them.
The wedding party then made their way back to Tiny’s house, where they danced in a circle on the lapa (courtyard), and eventually Tiny made her appearance and joined the dance. Tiny’s dress was no less than 4 or 5 feet in diameter! It takes a professional to dance in a dress like that! The wedding party then danced their way into the main tent, and the bride and groom made their way into the tent, escorted by their respective families.
About this time a truckload of chairs showed up, so we all grabbed one and found a seat under one of the tents. Because there were so many people, a down hill slope and that I was seated in a far tent, I could not actually see what was going on but thanks to the sound system I could hear it all!
For about 2.5 hours there was singing, praying, a sermon, dancing, singing, praying, dancing, praying, singing and dancing. As it turns out, South Africans love to talk to big crowds and anytime a new person gets a hold of the microphone you know they are going to talk for a good long time. So its no wonder that events (wedding, funerals, meetings, etc) go on for many hours. Luckily people have a very enthusiastic manner of speaking, so it can be very entertaining.
Eventually we got to the actually wedding ceremony, which turned out to be the traditional Christian vows in English, and then translated into Sepedi. It was very sweet and I do believe that Tiny and Moses will be very happy together. After some more singing, dancing and praying it was time for lunch! The whole she-bang took about four hours.
After lunch the bride and her family traveled to the groom’s family home for some more celebrating and I was told they were not back until very late!
Congrats to Tiny and Moses! Halla! Halla!
The other exciting event this week was the awards ceremony at the lower primary school. The educators handed out awards for good behavior, academics and cleanliness to many learners. This was the first time they had done this, and I think it was a big hit with the kids. When a child received an award the whole school would shout “Shine (the name) Shine! Mmmm Well Done!” It was so sweet!
I would also like to say congratulations to Todd and Allyson who are going to be married at the end of this week. I wish I could be there with you, but know that I am thinking about you! Love you both.
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